caring for our elders

7 Tips to Help Transition Your Mom From a Home to an Apartment in Kansas City

It’s never easy to decide when it’s time to move mom from her home, but it’s a necessary step to ensure she’s benefiting the most out of life. She may show signs that she can no longer maintain her home alone or she may just need extra assistance and attention. Whatever the case, our elder care experts at Paths Elder Law understand what it takes to make a smooth transition. Before you get started, we’ve compiled a list of tips to help transition your mom from a home to an apartment in Kansas City. 

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*This blog is for educational purposes only and should not be considered legal advice. The use of the Paths Law Firm website does not constitute a client-lawyer relationship.

1. Have a conversation

The process may not be easy for mom, even if it is her idea. You should sit down with her and talk about concerns and fears regarding moving to a smaller place to live, and help her understand that moving is the best decision. The key to having a smooth transition is being open and honest about everything. Let her depend on you for support; it could make all the difference. 

2. Understand her needs

You can use the conversation to start gauging what mom needs in an apartment. Does she simply need to downsize, or does she need medical attention as well? This will take some close watching on your part. You may originally think the move is just for financial reasons, but if you start noticing signs of aging that could affect her ability to live independently, the moving plan could change. 

If you’re unsure what to look for, use our caring for aging parents checklist to get you started. 

3. Research apartments

Now that you know your mom’s needs, take the time to research apartments to help transition your mom from a home to an apartment in Kansas City. There are many options out there to choose from, so it’s important to understand what you need and don’t need. 

To help, here are some questions to ask yourself:

“Why am I moving my mom?” 

The answer will give you insight on next steps; there could be a variety of factors that are in play. For instance, your mother may be widowed and no longer needs the space. If she can still take care of herself on her own, you may opt for independent living. That way she’ll have a sense of community while keeping her sense of independence. 

“Does my mother have health issues?”

If your answer is yes, you may have to consider some kind of assisted-living-styled apartment. This way, you won’t have to worry about her health conditions getting worse. 


Guide to Transitioning Your Aging Loved One to Assisted Living→


“What is the budget?”

When researching apartments, you should always have a solid budget in mind. You don’t want to apartment shop blindly. Understand what kind of apartment your mom needs and the average costs, then you can move forward with narrowing down your options. 

4. Consider payment options

If mom has to get an apartment in a senior living facility, especially one with more advanced medical assistance, you’ll want to plan your finances accordingly. This means speaking with insurance companies, talking to other family members, looking at your personal finances, and understanding VA and other benefits

5. Embrace your support system

Don’t ever feel like you have to go through the process alone. If you have siblings or other family members who can help, get them involved. Together you can make decisions and help each other through the transition. It’ll also help your mother to see her family come together to support her during the change. 

6. Surround her with familiar items

When it comes time to transition mom from a home to an apartment in Kansas City, try to bring some familiarity with you. It could be as simple as a few decorations and family photos. In doing so, your mother can feel more at home, and the change will be less jarring. 

7. Spend time with her

Let your mom know that she’s important to you. Whenever you can, visit her at her new apartment and let her know that you’re still there. Spending time with your mom is a great way to keep her positive, and you can let her know that the transition is a chance for her to have a fresh start. 

Learn more about parent home transitions with Paths Elder Law 

For over 25 years our team of dedicated elder law attorneys and elder law experts have helped our clients make smooth transitions from homes to apartments. 

If you need help throughout the moving process, schedule a consultation with us today. We can guide you through any questions you may have and give you legal advice on the best next steps. 



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Administrative Assistant

Ryan D. Foley

Ryan Foley at Paths Law

Administrative Assistant

Ryan D. Foley

Ryan graduated from the UMKC School of Law in 2018 and passed the Missouri Bar that year. Prior to law school, Ryan attended the University of Missouri – Columbia where he attained a degree in Business. He is a Kansas City native, growing up in the Northland where he achieved his Eagle Scout rank by doing a project for his high school. During his time in law school, Ryan was introduced to the practice area of Elder Law by one of his professors and has been

Ryan enjoys working with and educating clients to provide advocacy and support during the unfamiliar and often overwhelming probate process. Ryan understands the challenges faced by individuals when faced by the uncertainty and complexity of government systems or even handling a Trust during a time of grief, and he strives to make the process as easy as possible.

Administrative Assistant

Makaylee A. Morelli

administrative assistant at Paths Law

Administrative Assistant

Makaylee A. Morelli

Makaylee is currently working on her bachelor’s in political science and hopes to soon start law school as an aspiring attorney. In her free time, she loves to spend time with her friends and family but most importantly her dogs Taffyta, Tallulah Belle, and Harry. Their favorite thing to do is go on coffee dates and get pup cups.


Kathleen E. Overton

Kathleen Overton, attorney at Paths Law


Kathleen E. Overton

After starting her career as a disability attorney, Kathleen transitioned into estate planning at a mid-sized regional law firm. Kathleen joined Paths Law Firm in 2021 when she decided to return to a boutique law firm that provides excellent service and quality to clients. Because of her background as a disability attorney, she brings a thorough understanding of public benefits to each client meeting. At Paths Law FIrm, Kathleen focuses on traditional estate planning and business entity formation, providing tailored advice unique to each client’s situation.

Public Benefits Assistant

Tena K. Dooley

Public Benefits Assistant

Amanda D. Martin

I have my Associates in Applied Science and have over 20 years of office management experience. I have two daughters and one grandson.

During my time away from the office I enjoy spending time with my family.  I enjoy almost everything outdoors and my hobbies include fishing and gardening.


Sydney R. Morris

Paths Law elder law in Kansas City



Sydney is currently enrolled at the University of Missouri-Kansas City pursuing an accounting degree and plans to later attend law school.

In her free time, Sydney enjoys spending time with her nephews and volunteering at her local church.



Christy L. Phillips

client service manager at Paths Law


Christy L. Phillips

Phone: 816-640-8635
Email: [email protected]

Christy has 3 years of experience in Elder Law working for seniors and their families as a Benefits Coordinator processing Medicaid and VA applications. Prior to joining Paths Law Firm Christy worked in the finance industry for over 10 years.


Christy’s experience in the finance industry has been extremely beneficial to her role as Benefits Coordinator. There have been many influences that went into her decision to select the field of Elder Law. Christy has a special place in her heart for the elderly and attributes this to her relationship with her grandparents.

When asked why she loves what she does, Christy said that at Paths Elder law, she gets the opportunity to help clients in more ways than one. Her favorite part of her job is getting clients approved for Medicaid or VA benefits as it is a huge relief for them and their loved ones.

Christy was raised in Ogden, Utah, and moved to Independence, MO, when she was ten years old. She has two children that keep her busy and fill her life with joy! Christy’s daughter cheers for Avila University, and her son plays competitive baseball for the Bucks and races BMX locally for the Motorcycle Closeout Team.

When Christy is not working, she enjoys crafting and making homemade gifts for her loved ones and raising her kids to be healthy, happy, and positive humans.


Practice Areas

  • Medicaid Benefits
  • VA Benefits


Professionalc Memberships and Affiliations

  • Missouri Notary


René A. Fracassa

Rene A. Fracassa, Paths Law



René has worked along side Rusty for 35 years. Not only is she part of the Paths team, she is also his wife. René spends her time working with the accountant to keep all of the finances in order, as well as general office management.

In addition to helping run the office, she helps manage the family and grandkids, tries to keep everyone fed, and has a passion to teach Bible Studies. Her former career in Event Planning trained her to juggle all the activity. She understands Rusty’s passion to serve people from the first mention of law school. It is a great pleasure for her to be an important part of every area of his life.



Hilary R. Tichota

Hillary at Paths Law



Hilary plays a vital role in the daily operations of the office. In addition to her regular office duties, Hilary has a heart of gold.

For more than 5 years, Hilary has operated the front desk at Paths, running the office and catering to clients. Hilary recently moved into the role of Community Relations Coordinator. She has a passion for people and a focus to share our business practices with the community’s seniors, businesses, and clients. She especially has a heart for seniors, showing they are loved through her visits, treats, the “Pen to Pal” program, and volunteering services at various senior living communities. She is a wonderful wife and mother of two. Most activities with seniors involve her great talent for any type of craft.



Jennifer A. Bronson

Jennifer, senior paralegal



Jennifer has been in the legal field for over 25 years and considers Paths her second home.

When she’s not running the office or working for our clients, she’s spending time with her first passion – her children.


Russell A. Fracassa (Rusty)

attorney at Paths Law elder law


Russell A. Fracassa (Rusty)

Phone: 816-640-8635

When asked what he wants to do, his reply was “I just want to sit at the kitchen table and work directly with people.” Rusty enjoys working with clients providing experienced advocacy and supporting them through their unfamiliar and overwhelming situations. Due to all the challenges faced by seniors, it is essential to work with an experienced elder law attorney who has expertise in the law, issues, and concerns affecting seniors and their families.

Rusty brings nearly 30 years legal experience and expertise working for seniors and their families as an elder law attorney in Kansas City and surrounding. Prior to law school, Rusty was a practicing accountant. This provides invaluable experience in his current practice of law. Rusty decided to put his focus on helping the elderly, vulnerable adults, and their families navigate challenging life, end of life, and death events.

Rusty understands the challenges faced by individuals whose capacity is declining and how upsetting the loss of a loved one can be. He understands he may not be able to eliminate his client’s grief from loss, but he strives to provide clients with peace of mind. Rusty works directly with client’s long term care issues, including Medicaid, Veteran’s Benefits, Estate Planning, Asset Protection, and Special Needs Planning.

In 2010, Rusty’s faith and love led him and part of his family to China as Christian missionaries. He and his wife, went permanently, but ended up dedicating 3 years to that ministry. They returned to Missouri to help with grandchildren after a family tragedy and later began anew with Paths Elder Law. The goal is providing compassionate care through legal advocacy.

When Rusty is not practicing law, he enjoys spending time with his family, grandchildren, and excessive eating at local restaurants.


Practice Areas


  • Wills and Trusts
  • Estate Planning
  • Asset Protection
  • Medicaid Benefits
  • VA Benefits
  • Probate
  • Guardianship and Conservatorships
  • Education


BSBA and Master’s in Accounting, Master’s in Inter-Cultural Studies, and Doctorate in Juris Prudence

  • Rockhurst University
  • Liberty University
  • University of Missouri – Kansas City

Admissions to Practice

  • Missouri

Professional Memberships and Affiliations

  • State Bar of Missouri
  • National Academy of Elder Law Attorneys (long-time Member)
  • Elder Counsel (Charter and Ongoing Member)
  • Missouri Association of Trial Attorneys (Past Member)
  • Kansas City Metropolitan Bar Association
  • Missouri State Bar Committees – Elder Law, Estate Planning, Probate